What If I Lose the Weight… and Still Don’t Like Myself?

There’s a fear that keeps many women stuck in emotional eating, but it’s rarely talked about.

It sounds like this:

“I’ve been overweight for as long as I can remember. I don’t even know who I’d be without it. What if I lose the weight and I still don’t like myself? What if I’m still broken?”

For some, weight has been a lifelong companion since childhood or adolescence.

It becomes part of your identity, your story, your protection.

And while you want to break free from the food struggle…
You might also be afraid of what’s on the other side.

Afraid of failing again.
Afraid of being judged.
Afraid of facing big emotions without food to soften the blow.
Afraid that even if your body changes, nothing else will.

Here’s the truth I want you to know:

You don’t need more food rules.
You don’t need another “transformation challenge.”
And you definitely don’t need to bully yourself into change.

What you do need is a space to work through the fears and emotions that have kept you stuck.


You need tools that help you feel safe in your body again, without using food to cope.


And you need to rebuild trust with yourself, one gentle step at a time.

Because when that happens, something shifts:

You stop needing food to feel okay.
You stop waiting for your body to be perfect.
You stop abandoning yourself.

You finally get to feel like you again — only more whole, more grounded, more free.

If that’s the kind of healing you’re ready for, I’d love to support you.
This is exactly the work I do inside my private coaching program.

Book a free discovery call here or send me an email at hello@ritamayblog.com, and I’ll tell you more.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

XX, Rita

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Rita May

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I help busy and driven female professionals, entrepreneurs and hard working mothers to find time and motivation to eat a balanced diet and transform their relationship with food.

I help you reprogram your mind so you stop emotional eating.

I teach you to stop the negative self-talk and take good care of yourself so food is not your main pleasure source.

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